Sunday, December 27, 2009
Christmas this year was nice. It was peaceful. I finally found my camera cord so I will try to upload pictures today. It has been a nice break. Hubs, Drake, and Ryne(my stepson) have layed around and played football on the Playstation for most of the time though. Well back to cleaning for now... until then.
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Before marriage, I dreamed about how happy I would be when we got married. I had visions of all the wonderful things my wife would do for me. Sausage and eggs together in the mornings. Candlelight dinners at night. Holding hands all day long and sex every night. I assumed that she had the same visions. But, after marriage I found out that my wife didn't do mornings. So much for the sausage and eggs. She anticipated that I would take her out to romantic restaurants for dinner, not as a prelude to sex, but simply because I loved her. I expressed my disappointment with her and she expressed her disappointment with me. We succeeded in being utterly miserable. Our marriage didn't turn around overnight, but it did turn around. And so can yours. I want to share the secret. It all has to do with attitude. Jesus' life and teachings focused on sacrificial service to others. He once said, "I did not come to be ministered to, but to minister." It is a theme that all truly great men and women of the past have affirmed. Life's greatest meaning is not found in getting, but in giving. This profound principle made a significant difference in my marriage. Developing an attitude of service is not easy but the rewards are overwhelmingly positive. Few people will run away from someone who is serving them. My wife was no exception. When I reached out to serve her, it wasn't long before she was reaching out to me. Jesus had it right! Why did it take me so long to learn? How would a wife respond to a husband who sincerely sought to serve her? In my desperation I was determined to find out. I set myself to discovering her needs and desires and sought to fulfill them. I began quietly and slowly to do some of the things she had requested in the past. You see, by now we were too estranged to talk about our relationship, but I could choose to take action on some of her previous complaints. I started washing dishes without being asked. I volunteered to fold the clothes. It seemed to me these where the kind of things Jesus might have done had He been married. When she made specific requests, I determined to respond cheerfully and if possible to do them. In less than three months, my wife's attitude toward me began to change. She came out of her shell of withdrawal and began to talk again. I think she sensed that my days of preaching were over and that my attitude toward her was changing. Genuine acts of service seldom go unrewarded. Before long, our hostility was gone, and we began to have positive feelings toward each other.You see, if I believe that it is more blessed to give than to receive; that serving my spouse is more important than being served; that my best end is found in making her life better, then it will affect the way I treat her. When she sees this attitude expressed in my behavior she knows that something has changed. If I am consistent, then service becomes a lifestyle. Most wives and husbands are attracted to someone who shows genuine concern for them. The person who follows the example of Jesus - in serving others, is on the road to greatness and to a growing marriage relationship.
On the Road to Reconciliation
Thousands of people experience marital separation every year. Many of them sincerely want to know, "What should I do, as a Christian?" First: Don't assume that separation equals divorce. Separation may lead to a restored, enriched, growing marriage. The individuals involved will determine the outcome of separation. Separation is not permanent. It either leads to resurrection or death. The Christian must always seek resurrection. This week, let's explore the possibilities of seeking reconciliation. Separation calls for intensive care, much like that given to those in grave physical danger. The condition of the marriage is "critical". Proper mediation is essential. Surgery may be required. That will call for the services of a counselor or pastor. What you do in the weeks following your separation will determine the quality of your life for years to come. Separation is not the time to capitulate. The battle for marital unity may just be beginning. Be assured, God is concerned about the outcome. You can count on Him for supernatural help. He will not abandon you in this time of pain. Separation means that a marriage is in desperate straits. Healing will require listening, understanding, discipline, change. But hard work can result in the joy of a restored marriage. I know that some of you are saying: "It sounds good, but it won't work. We've tried before. Besides, I don't think my spouse will even try again. I'm not even sure I want to try." I understand your feelings, but don't assume that the hostile attitude of your spouse will last forever, or that your own feelings are permanent. One of God's gifts to all of us is the gift of choice. We can change. Your spouse may be saying: "I'm through. It is finished. I don't want to talk about it." But three week or three months from now your spouse may be willing to talk. Much depends on what you do in the meantime, and much depends on your spouse's response to the Spirit of God. You pray. You work. You leave the results to God. When we chose to work on our marriages, we have all the help of God. God will not force your spouse to deal with issues and return to the marriage, but He will give you wisdom and strength as you seek to follow His will.Where do we turn for help when we are separated? For the Christian, there is one stable source to which we turn when we need guidance. That source is the Bible. In the Bible we find not only what we ought to do, but also the encouragement and power to do it. The words of Paul become our own: "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13).When we turn to the Bible for guidance, we discover that the Bible calls us to seek reconciliation. Divorce is not God's desire. It is true that ultimately you cannot keep your spouse from divorcing you. Even God had to grant Israel a divorce because she refused to turn from her sinful ways (Jeremiah 3:8). But that was after years of seeking reconciliation. And even yet, God has not given up on Israel - there will be future reconciliation.So we must seek reconciliation. Even if our spouse ultimately refuses our efforts, we will have the satisfaction of knowing that we were faithful to the biblical ideal.
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Well... while I was getting dressed Drake decided to sneak in the kitchen and try getting his men out with a knive. He cut his finger and tried to stop the bleeding by biting on his finger, trying to put tape on his finger, and grabbing a million rags out of the drawer. Poor baby!!! He didn't want to call me because he thought he would get into trouble for not listening to me. When he did call me he had blood everywhere. everywhere. He had it all over his mouth, chest, floors, cabinets, I screamed what happened. All he could say through the tears was I am sorry I should have listened to you I should have listened. I looked at it and took him to the ER.
cough....ahem...THIS MIGHTY FINE HOSPITAL..cough. we got there at 10:10 pm. We left at 1:30 am with 4 stitches in his little pointer finger. There were no emergencies while we where in there. I thought about waiting until the am and taking him to his doctor but when I showed it to our cousin which is a nurse she said yes take him to the ER. I felt so Bad for Drake. He was so nervous. He kept saying am I going to bleed to death. You know people bleed to death. I kept reassuring him he would be ok. He fell asleep and woke up to them giving him stitches. But something I thought was kinda cute while we were on our way to the ER room we past an older lady on a stretcher, they were wheeling her to a room. She had an oxygen mask on. So we get in the room and Drake says oh man next time just take me to a private hospital. I said why Drake. He said because didnt you see that grandma with that rag on her mouth. People are really sick and I got blood everywhere. Take to me the private hospital where people don't die. Poor baby.. So scared. When he did wake up while they were giving him stitches he saw the nurse had a pair of scissors in her hand. He screamed get those away they are sharp. I dont like sharp things. Lesson Learned!!!
Friday, August 14, 2009
here is a favorite verse in a song it gives me chills every time i here it Morning breaks another day Finds me crying in the rain All alone with my demons I am Who is this man that comes my way? The dark ones shriek They scream His name Is this the O...ne they say will set the captives free? Jesus, rescue me!! the song is set me free by casting crowns here it tell me if you like it too!Read More
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Does God exist?That is a question alot of people want to know.But I know what the answer is.Do you?
No two Christians will ever meet for the last time
Live as though Christ died yesterday, rose from the grave today, and is coming back tomorrow
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*I am not perfect ...* ... but I AM the enemy of the good! -
back from church camp it was absolutly AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
All of these show how strong he is in his christianity. I am so proud of him and how he isn't scared to stand up and and say Yes I believe in God!!! Most 12 year olds are worried about what others think of them. They aren't strong enough in their faith of God to stand up and proclaim it to others.
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Friday, July 24, 2009
Challenge update....Well I am so freaking pumped. I have lost a total of 25 pounds since I started the first challenge. I never thought I would lose this much weight because I gained 80 on steriods and it has been a battle since then to take the weight off. I couldnt really tell except with my clothes on my weight lost except I saw a picture and I put them together of at work right before I started this challenge and now and I really see a difference. Heck yes... I really hope all the girls are doing good on the challenge also. Gotta go for now....until then...
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Please if you have a chance visit her site. It is so sad to know that everyday another child is getting diagnosed with cancer. I hate cancer. My dad died of cancer when I was 4. This makes you so thankful everyday for your children being healthy. I can't imagine the pain the parents are dealing with. Please if you have a chance say a prayer for kate and all the kids and families affected by this horrible disease.
The site is www.thepioneerwoman.com/tasty-kitchen/ I hope everyone is also hanging in there on the challenge. It is almost half over and you will definitely see results by following the rules. I never stuck with something this long but I feel like if I let myself down I will also let down all the other ones trying so hard. I know this has been a life changing experience and I have made some "friendships thru blogging of course" that I never would have made. I thank God for all of you. Ok enough rattling for now.
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Oh yeah...I am taking Drake to the pulmonary specialist tomorrow at Children's. I am hoping and praying for some results tomorrow. I am so tired of my son coughing all night and not getting any answers. I have tried it all. They have done chest xrays, all kinds of blood work and nothing is coming up. So please say a small prayer for him tomorrow that the doctors can find out what is causing this horrible dry cough. Until then.........